Dear Aspiring Writer Me -- Jen Doktorski
Dear Jen,
If all has gone as planned, you will find this
letter just as I’m stealing away from Bigler Hall unseen and dashing across the
street to a silver DeLorean, which awaits my arrival to take me back to the
future. You’ll find these words of wisdom from an older, blonder you on the eve
of an appointment with Maya Spence, your freshman advisor at Penn State, who
wants to speak with you about declaring your major.
When you get home from
class, you’ll plop on your bed and stare for a while at the cinder block walls adorned
with posters of Patrick Swayze and Alf because yes, you were that exactly that
uncool. Then you’ll page through the course selection catalog and try to decide
between majoring in biology, in the hopes of becoming a veterinarian, or
English, as a step toward becoming a writer. My letter will slip from between
the catalog’s pages just as you’re about to conclude that becoming a vet will
take much too long (we’re talking close to ten years, right?), and opt,
instead, to major in English with a concentration in non-fiction writing. You’re
not yet ready to admit that what you really want is to become a children’s book
author, and my letter is not meant to rush that admission, or change your mind
about your choice in major. But there are a few things I think you should know.
1. You
do eventually become a published author of young adult fiction. At this
writing, your first two books have been published and your agent is shopping a
third. That’s the good news. That bad news is you could have gone through
veterinary schools twice already and still be younger than you were when your
first novel debuted. Do not let this dissuade you. You made the right choice.
You and I both know—since we’re both you, or me, depending on how you look
at it—that you can’t balance your checkbook without using a calculator or
counting on your fingers. How far did you think those seriously-lacking math
skills were going to take you?
2. You’ll
spend more than a decade writing non-fiction, first as a journalist, then as a
communications specialist and speechwriter, and later as a freelance writer.
Don’t think of these jobs as wasted time. Being a journalist taught you to
write fast and accurately on a deadline. It also taught you to be curious. It
gave you entre to different worlds, and helped you explore challenging topics
and write about them in a way that made it easy for people to read and
understand. The people you’ve met and the places you’ve been have shaped and
inspired you. The truth is what grounds your made-up stories.
3. Never
forget why you wanted to write fiction in the first place. You’re too shy to be
a stand-up comedienne, but you always wanted to make people laugh. Know this:
funny doesn’t win awards. But don’t let that dissuade you. Someday you’ll get
an email from a 15-year-old girl who said she hated reading until her mother
gave her your books. Now she reads all the time. Cherish those comments from
real, teen readers and forget about leaving space on your cover for a nice,
shiny seal.
4. Rejection
never gets easier. You were well into the double digits when you finally
connected with the right agent and she sold your first novel. Rejection
continues even after you’re published. Everyone is not always going to like everything
you write. Sometimes, they’ll even hate it. And that leads me to my final bit
of advice.
5. Don’t
quit. At certain times you’ll want to but then you’ll remember that quitting
will only ensure that you’ll never
get published. But if you keep writing, revising, submitting, reading, and
doing everything in your power to perfect your craft, well, then, there’s
always hope that the right agent and editor will come along and want to help
you get your stories out into the world.
Shortly before you sign your first contract with a
publisher, a very wise six-year-old will say something to you that you will
remember for the rest of your life. “Mommy, even if no one buys your book, you’re
still an author.” Smart kid. Remember that, and everything else I told you.
All the best,
Your
future self
PS You’ll have to wait quite a few years, but when it comes out, read Stephen King’s On Writing. He says it all much better than me.
Jen, I love this. Totally laughing out loud and cringing a bit too. --Signed another late blooming debut writer.
ReplyDeleteOh, this is perfect! Thank you for sharing it.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jody and Nancy! I should have also warned my younger self about proofreading. Just caught a typo. :)
ReplyDeleteMAN, that's a smart kid.
ReplyDeleteIndeed! Thank you. :)
DeleteFive very solid points that I can definitely relate to. I love that non-fiction and journalism helped expand your curiosity. I came to them after writing fiction but I am definitely finding that to be true. And don’t quit, that’s the one I need to tell myself over and over and over again!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Stephanie! Non-fiction definitely helps expand the boundaries of the old "right what you know" adage.
Delete"Don't quit." Words of wisdom...especially given the wild ups and downs of the writing life.
ReplyDeleteThis is great! Interesting about the journalism. I did the same. And I love "On Writing." I think I'll reread it...
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