A Time To CONNECT (Jodi Moore)
I love words. It’s part of the job description. So choosing
“a” word to inspire me for the year wasn’t an easy task. I started thinking
about it in December and seemed to change it on a daily basis. There are so
many splendiferous words out there.
It seemed that every time I’d decide, “Yes! That’s the
one!”, I’d hear or read about someone
else’s word and think, “Oh, but that one is so good too…”
How would I choose? It was quite a conundrum. (See? So many lovely words!)
One morning, my husband and I had breakfast at a diner on
our way back from traveling. I couldn’t help but notice (awareness is part of
the job description too) the family sitting in the booth across from us.
Admittedly, I’m making some assumptions about their actual positions/roles as I
didn’t know them, but it appeared to be a mother with her two young children
(perhaps 7 and 5?) and possibly the grandmother. The adults sat directly across
from one another, each one with a child at their side.
There was a short burst of discussion over breakfast
options. But as soon as the server took their order, the children’s laptops
made their appearance. And the conversation ceased.
I thought perhaps the
adults had “grownup things” to discuss and they needed something to entertain
the children for a bit. Stuff happens. We’ve all been there.
But, sadly, that wasn’t the case. When I say the
conversation ceased, I mean all of it. The two women ate in silence as the
children breakfasted with Moana.
Larry and I looked at each other and sighed. Such a missed
opportunity. Such a disconnect. Our hearts broke a little bit for them. (It’s
almost been ten years since our little chicks flew the coop and we’re still in
the throes of Empty Nest.)
But then, a mom and her son came in and sat in the booth
behind this other family.
“It’s just you and me this morning," the woman said to the boy as
they picked up their menus.
You could have read in the dead of night during a power
outage by the light of that child’s smile.
And though their food may have gotten a bit cold as they
talked, the warmth radiating off that table could not have been more delicious.
Nor more nutritious…for both.
“Turn around!” I wanted to shout at the other family. “Look,
learn. See what you’re missing before it’s too late!”
And that’s when I decided on my word: CONNECT.
I wanted to write it in big syrupy letters on their
pancakes…but that may have wound up as a different blog post.
Because life really is all about connecting.
This year, I want to be more proactive with talking to and connecting
with my family and friends.
I want to reconnect on a deeper level with my inner child so
that I may write stories from that voice of innocence. As honestly as I can.
I want to connect the dots in order to try and make sense of
the world, and help others make sense of it too.
And I want to connect with those who feel they might not
have a voice, and let them know someone is listening. That someone cares. And
that the world needs to hear THEIR stories.
For me, the time to connect is NOW. How will you connect this year?
Wonderful post, excellent pictures. I keep remembering how little interaction there was between me and my grandparents. My mother flipped that over, roaming the fields at Sennebec Hill Farm with her six grandkids, discovering more nature in an afternoon that some kids experience in a year of school. I'm doing the same with my 4 year old granddaughter. We took her on a small section of the App. Trail last summer. That connection early on will remain as long as I'm on this planet.
ReplyDeleteOh! How I love this...what lucky grands - all the way around! <3 !!! :)
DeleteGreat word, Jodi, and a great goal for all of us.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Mary! :) xoxo
DeleteI agree--GREAT word.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Holly! :) xoxo
DeleteI LOVE this word and all your thoughts about why it works for you and the diner story about how you arrived there. It never hurts to be reminded how wonderful connection is. Or how horrible it would be if we were forcibly denied it. Can't wait to CONNECT with you in NY!!!! <3
ReplyDeleteAw, thanks, Kim...and I can't wait to connect with you in NY too...up 'til 4 AM? No problem, lol! ;-) xoxo !!!
DeleteI've seen situations like that too, such as when I see people who are supposedly friends hang out but they spend more time texting other people than actually talking to the people right in front of them. I've also had friends who did that to me when I hung out with them, and it bothered me because it made me feel like they didn't really want to talk to me half as much as the people on their phones.
ReplyDeleteYes, that really bothers me too. :( I can understand an emergency, or if they've explained beforehand that they're waiting for an important call, but I believe the person you're with "in person" deserves the attention. Hugs and thanks for commenting! xoxo
DeleteIf we all connected more, I believe there would be a lot more love and happiness in our world. Thanks for a great post, Jodi!
ReplyDeleteI agree! Thank YOU, Fae! xoxo
DeleteThis is a good word, and so necessary in our seemingly connected world, I feel like we're all more disconnected than ever.
ReplyDeleteYes, this. EXACTLY. Thanks for connecting here with me! xoxo
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