Like my mom before me, I do virtually all of the Christmas shopping in our house. Unlike my mom, I also shop for gifts for myself and hand them to my husband to wrap, in order to make sure there’s SOMETHING decent for me under the tree. Looking back, I’m guessing my mom was probably disappointed every year. I take action.
(My daughter’s Christmas wish list at age 12 included the following: "Clothes (to be picked out by ME but also you can do some guessing IF IT IS GOOD)." Hey, I understand!)
The best gift I ever received? NO idea, but mostly I remember that, long after I grew up and flew the coop, my mom bought me a gorgeous sweater for Christmas every year. It was the only gift I really looked forward to, because she knew my taste in clothes and colors and fit, and I think she aced it every year but one. It wasn’t really the sweaters, though. It was the fact that she paid attention in order to find a gift I’d love.
|Speaking of gifts I'd love...|
In my novel Being Mary Bennet Blows, a guy named Josh hands Mary a Diet Coke. At the Mall of America. As a Minneapolis chick who knows the MOA like the back of my hand, I can tell you that the MOA has a Pepsi contract, so only a couple of places in the entire mall sell Coke products. (I cherish them!) Mary Bennet drinks Diet Coke — always. When Josh gets a Diet Coke for her, Mary thinks it’s no big deal, but her sisters realize that he must like her. Why? He paid attention to what she drinks and went out of his way to find it.
For me, the best gifts simply show that you pay attention. If you pay attention, you’ll give me milk chocolate, not dark. White wine, not red. (But not chardonnay!) Yellow roses, not red. Hugh Jackman, not Brad Pitt. Books and movies with happy endings, not sad ones.
Or maybe a bottle of Corona.
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Hey, since we’re talking gifts, and my life involves a lot of music, here’s my gift to you: links to six songs (since it’s the sixth of December) that I LOVE, in no particular order.
1. “Tomorrow Never Came”: Lana Del Rey and Sean Ono Lennon (who sounds eerily like his dad; beautiful song)
2. "Cake by the Ocean": DNCE (always makes me wanna dance!)
3. “Read My Mind”: The Killers (a band I played in did this song, and I loved it so much that I referred to it in my novel Livin’ La Vida Bennet)
4. “A Dios le Pido”: Juanes (the first song of his that I discovered, and part of the most perfect album I’ve ever heard in any language: Un Día Normal)
5. “Please Remember Me”: Rodney Crowell (my favorite singer/songwriter; wistfully sweet song)
6. “All I Want for Christmas Is You”: Mariah Carey (because a December list of my fave songs should include a Christmas song, and I love this one)
Whatever holiday(s) you do or don’t celebrate, enjoy!
Mary Strand is the author of Pride, Prejudice, and Push-Up Bras and three other novels in the Bennet Sisters YA series. You can find out more about her at marystrand.com.